Monthly Archives: February 2012

Shoulder to lean

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Shoulder to leanEvery child deserves a shoulder to lean on.

In a third world country like Philippines many children are raised with poor parents. The irony of thing is the poorer the higher the number of children being raised. There is no actual family planning. Some have been told of such family planning methods through seminars held at their respective health centers but some never heard of such planning. They were uneducated and illiterate.

There was a poor couple who were facing an unplanned pregnancy. It was just few months after giving birth to a son. They ate at least thrice a day but suffered the agonizing heat of the sun. Both of them are laborers. They would wait on a dump truck that would dump garbage on their place. They would then pick up will bare hands some tin cans, used bottles and scrap metals out of the garbage and sold it at the nearby junk shop.

A middle class couple had lost their should be first born son of a miscarriage. They have waited a year for his wife to get pregnant after the wedding, thought the pregnancy was all the way to born a healthy baby. But then, just at it’s sixth month of pregnancy that they found out there was no more heartbeat of the fetus that was heard. Dismayed of what happened their relationship went cold and sad.

A rich couple who had been married for five years never had a child. His wife is barren, there is no hope for her to get pregnant. They went looking for the right child to adopt. They want to see the relatives of the child, their physical appearance if they looked good and if they have good background. They saw some of their relatives but haven’t met the parents. They planned to go abroad after the papers of the child be fully processed for adoption.

So, it was a three hour travel to get into the place of the prospective child to be adopted. It was the day that the child should be born. When they arrived at the place, they saw the mother’s physical appearance. The exact opposite of their relatives good looking features. But they can’t back out all was planned as it was. They have waited for few hours but her mother was still in labor. It was getting late and they still have to travel long way heading home. They just then left the place. After it, the ones who brought the couple to the place never heard of the couple’s interest of adopting the child again. That child is the daughter of the poor couple.

The poor couple who had planned to let the child be adopted had lost hope. Then, they decided of having the child to be adopted by her cousin, the middle class couple. She went to see her cousin to have her child adopted, though hesitant at first she accepted the child as her  foster daughter. It was the right decision for after that first miscarriage she never got pregnant again.

When adopting, should you be choosy to know who to adopt judging that child through the physical appearance of the parents? Should you not know first to accept them wholeheartedly? With the middle class couple is a sweet girl who loves them.She needs her mother for a shoulder to lean on. She deserves their love and nurturing care.

They know better

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Seeking the right decisions in life.

They know betterThey have said that the old ones know best. They have been through life’s struggles and won some battles. At their age they will give you an advice and say, “trust me, I’ve been there.”

Getting married at a young age would be perceived by them as a failure in the future. There was a couple who got married at the age of nineteen with the consent of their parents. The girl wasn’t pregnant at all, she just have to escape from her step mother who had been cruel to her.

In their house, she couldn’t call it a home, her mother died at a young age from breast cancer. His father shouldn’t get married after her mother was lost, that was what she ever wanted. But her father eventually got married after a year. She couldn’t accept the situation.

She didn’t opened her heart to love and she wasn’t loved back by her step mother.She became a wicked step mother on her sight because she had hatred on her heart. On the other hand, her step mother also revenged on her by mistreating her and her younger brother. She then begun hating her father for making the wrong decision of marrying her.

Life wasn’t easy for her but she have someone to love her, her boyfriend. Her boyfriend have seen the situation and asked her to get married. So that was it, they got married at such young age.

Her husband was just a student by that time. When his son was born he strive to finish his studies and he did it. He became an engineer with a family as his inspiration. Their two children were raised well and became professionals as well.

Now, they say that getting married late would be such a success. All are set, a fully furnished house, a car in the garage and a stable job to sustain the family.

A man at his young age would jump from a relationship to the other, just played around the bush and not really getting serious to relationships. He would wake up each day getting lazy with life. As if nothing is going to happen tomorrow, never thought of marriage, never his priority. At his mid thirty he realized he was not getting any younger so he then went to start a new life of living responsibly. He opened a new business and had it progressed well.

At his late thirty he found the one for him and got married. He had a son and is happily married. He then said to his father, “If only I got married at an early age I should have worked earlier for my son’s future and could have played around with my son at a longer period of time, now I easily get tired of running with him.”

It is right seeking the advice of the elders because they know more in life for they traveled farther in life. They know better but no one knows best. We make decisions but we never know what is best for us. For there is no guidelines on how to live life but just live life on a daily basis and make the best of it. Life is a battle and we should fight for life’s struggles and win the battle.

Burping with satisfaction

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A satisfaction is the answer of one’s desire.

I am a woman myself. I have grown up seeing love stories and fairy tales on movies. It was very enchanting to watch. I would rather watch it than hearing the yelling and noise of a battered wife my mother went through.

I was a little girl when my father got really drowned in liquor. He would beat my mother inside their room. I would cover my ears with both my hands so I won’t hear them. I have told myself they are old enough to settle it.

I satisfy myself into watching movies than thinking about their misery. There was a time my mother almost gave up to their marriage but my father asked for forgiveness and stopped drinking for a while. There was harmony at home that time.

A few days after a friend paid my father a visit. He couldn’t say no to liquor once again. I thought he changed. He maybe have felt the bitter sweet taste of liquor and as well as life’s. He got laid off at work and stayed at home. He went to drink the more, each night. My mother would nagged at him telling him harsh words and they went quarreling again.

It was really hard times. My mother was the one who worked for the family and going home with a drunkard husband would be so painful for her. When she went home, I never saw her happy with her life. She was dreadfully wasn’t smiling at all.

My mother went on in working for the family until she earned some savings to start a little business in which my father should look up to. I never thought of it was a good idea and then it really wasn’t. My father drank that night with the amount of money that should be paid for the supplier when he got drunk and his money was stolen. He went home sober. The business never succeed instead the drinking succeeded.

Burping with satisfactionI have seen my mother as a strong willed woman she never gave up on my father for the sake of us, their children. Though there were times that she thought of giving up. My father was irresponsible and drunkard. Not really a good father to look up to.

He got satisfied with drinking that he never thought of us as his responsibility. But the good thing is sooner he came to realize the messed he have made with his life and his family. When I later asked him why he have done those past, he just answered, “I was burping with satisfaction when I drank liquor and only then I realized that I should be burping with satisfaction in the responsibility of taking care of my family and loving my wife.”

I have seen my mother found the true love of her life that amid the pain she went through she stood by my father for better or worst. It came into my senses that that’s what marriage is all about forgiving and loving. Of course, there were hardships and only through those hardships that you will be burping with satisfaction.